Aretha Franklin. And the line. Murphy Brown very much represented my adopted mom in my young brain. The character Murphy Brown and my mom were both strong, independent women.
Are you a lady who likes to be natural
They were fierce. And strong. So, so strong.
And, in this episode, Murphy Brown became a single mom…like my mom. It was the first birth I remember seeing. I remember thinking women in labor were funny and a bit scary, as I knew nothing about birth up until then.
(You Make Me Feel Like) A Natural Woman - Columbus Birth & Parenting
Side Note: Murphy singing this song to her baby felt like my adopted mom singing this song to me. All the times she sang it in the car were playing in my head.Single Ladies Granby
When you call lkies CBP number, this is the song that plays on my end of the phone. Before we were CBP and I was just a solo doula, all of my clients and their partners were given this song as their special ringtone.
It told me that no matter what I was doing, I needed to answer because it was someone who was having a baby or who just had a baby. But then I started supporting women in birth and I saw so many different ways of giving birth. The words they spoke to them.
They way they interacted with their baby. And then I realized something profound. Carrying a baby inside you, no matter how you got pregnant, is a natural process.
Birth is the process of the baby that grew inside you coming out of you, and it is part of that natural liies of being pregnant, no matter how that baby came out…because pregnancy cannot go on forever. And love is also natural process sometimes it takes a little time to form…but it will, I promise. Unmedicated birth.
Epidural birth. Cesarean birth. And birth is part of the natural process of pregnancy.
Thank you, Aretha Franklin, for helping me see my mother for the mother she was able to be. Thank you for helping me through a major identity crisis.
Thank you for speaking to my soul. But what I remember most about the episode was the final scene.
I Look Dating Are you a lady who likes to be natural
But more than that, this scene and song, helped me through a massive identity crisis. My job was to support parents through pregnancy, birth, and parenting. And all of these things are parts of a natural process. All of these things are natural therefore all birth is natural.
(You Make Me Feel Like) A Natural Woman, a song by Aretha Franklin on Spotify
Even in adoption, we have the birth of a new family by the addition of the new baby. This realization made me a different doula.
A different woman. The power of your voice and your words will always be with us.